You never know when a breakthrough will happen. Today was one of those days. Earlier this week, a new business colleague did something ethically questionable. I was torn. The old me would have given her the benefit of the doubt, had a candid conversation about the situation then been surprised and disappointed when it reoccurred. Now I’m wondering if I see the writing on the wall and head in the opposite direction as quickly as possible. No explanation needed. That feels good for a second but then begins to feel uncomfortable. But doing the same thing seemed untenable. So I thought on it. So what was I hoping to achieve?
What am I seeking to avoid? I considered it and was surprised at the conclusion. I should do the exact same thing, go through the exact same behavior but with a different mindset. Wow. How simple. How profound. Still muster the courage and resolve to have the honest discussion but don’t expect it to turn out well. Just do your duty to speak the truth. Realize you might simply be delaying the inevitable. That okay. At least you’ve handled it with integrity. And who knows, you might just be pleasantly surprised! So it wasn’t my behavior that needed to change at all. It was my mindset.